My friend suggested he could maybe set me up with some of his friends since the last few guys I have dated just....weren't the greatest as far as potential life partner. I had a few extra minutes before I had to head to church this morning, so I figured I'd just skim through his friend list on FaceBook and see if anyone popped. Of course I started noticing the number of mutual friends associated with each person, and I randomly clicked on guys AND girls that I was just curious to see who the other mutual friends were. And for some reason I clicked on this girl...maybe I figured she looked just like one of the hot parade-herself-around-for-attention girls that my ex would know. After clicking on her name, I first noticed her background picture and her teeny weeny pink bikini. I immediately regretted clicking on her name. And I became even more nauseas as I saw, of course, my ex was her mutual friend. And it only got worse as I saw that every picture she posted was soft porn. Boobs and butt cheeks for every picture. Underwear, conveniently posed for no underwear, bikinis...a world of narcissism, vanity, and superficial crap. And hundreds of likes from men to go with each picture.
I want to be a hermit. I know that guys have a lot thrown in their faces, but looking through pictures like that, taking the time to like or comment pictures like that...first, it encourages that behavior, and second, that's a choice. Dwelling on those pics. Probably getting off on her pics. She's offering herself up as an object. None of those guys care about her as a person, most likely, and even if they do, they are motivated to care for the wrong reasons. They wouldn't care about her as a person if she were ugly. They most likely care because she's giving them a free show...or because they want attention from someone like her...involve her in their fantisies. And I just want to be a hermit. I don't want be with a guy who invites that meaningless, valueless temptation into his life. It's hard enough to hold onto faith in good men when they willingly subject themselves to that stuff and care nothing for the damage it causes for their brain chemistry, relationships, their children, and society as a whole. When men try to differentiate between love and sex...justify and excuse giving in to the basest animal instinct...claiming biology, but your brain is part of your biology.
THINK! PLEASE THINK! Instant gratification is not worth it. Impulsive behavior needs boundaries. If all these things were actually good, where are all the healthy, happy relationships? Where are all the healthy, happy children? Why is society running rampant with pregnant teens, entitlement, and people who find ways to get on government aid rather than taking care of themselves. The fruit of this vine is moldy, black, and withering. We are no longer creating legacies of success and education for our children. We are creating selfishness and ignorance. It seems that the people who are succeeding and going for education are increasingly the minority because they aren't the ones reproducing. It's the playboys and the desperate insecure girls. It's the LOVE-starved generation that is being spoon-fed pornography and sex for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Music, TV, movies and magazines promoting the "fun" of partying, getting high/drunk, casual sex, etc. The idols of this world are no longer the intellectual geniuses with their innovations (Einstein) or the moral epicenters (Ghandi, Mother Teresa) that changed the world. We give little care for those who pushed society to new awareness, new heights. No not anymore.
Now, we idolize the sensual and the sexual. We idolize the hot body. We idolize the most temporary and empty part of our humanity...the form. We celebrate immodesty and immorality. We tell ourselves that we are "taking control" when we are actually losing control. And we don't associate that to our pain, our failure, our lack of progress and improvement in life. We don't associate it to failed relationships, cheating, lying and lack of integrity in general. We now have a society that denies consequence and responsibility. Denies consideration. Denies legacy. We are no longer a world of creation and innovation. We are a world of destruction. And so that is why I say, I want to be a hermit. I want to close out a world that is so determined to be blind to truth and beauty...a world that will cast pearls before swine, selling what is truly valuable for a cheap thrill or a one night stand.
We can't keep a foot in both doors and then be surprised when you don't have a leg to stand on. I want to mourn for the 'wholesome' and the 'down to earth'. I want to mourn for the innocence of youth. I want to scream at the people who don't stand up for anyone or anything and then blame everyone for their poor choices. But when I talk like this...people say I'm judgemental and intolerant. People would probably even call me a hater. I'm not tring to hate...I'm trying to love. But it's getting harder in a world that no longer understands that word...what once was love is now acceptance. People don't want to strive to be better, rise to the challenge, and fulfill their potential...they want to be accepted as is. No pressure. No pain. No progress. And they call that "happiness"...so where are all the happy people?
I want to be a hermit. I know that guys have a lot thrown in their faces, but looking through pictures like that, taking the time to like or comment pictures like that...first, it encourages that behavior, and second, that's a choice. Dwelling on those pics. Probably getting off on her pics. She's offering herself up as an object. None of those guys care about her as a person, most likely, and even if they do, they are motivated to care for the wrong reasons. They wouldn't care about her as a person if she were ugly. They most likely care because she's giving them a free show...or because they want attention from someone like her...involve her in their fantisies. And I just want to be a hermit. I don't want be with a guy who invites that meaningless, valueless temptation into his life. It's hard enough to hold onto faith in good men when they willingly subject themselves to that stuff and care nothing for the damage it causes for their brain chemistry, relationships, their children, and society as a whole. When men try to differentiate between love and sex...justify and excuse giving in to the basest animal instinct...claiming biology, but your brain is part of your biology.
THINK! PLEASE THINK! Instant gratification is not worth it. Impulsive behavior needs boundaries. If all these things were actually good, where are all the healthy, happy relationships? Where are all the healthy, happy children? Why is society running rampant with pregnant teens, entitlement, and people who find ways to get on government aid rather than taking care of themselves. The fruit of this vine is moldy, black, and withering. We are no longer creating legacies of success and education for our children. We are creating selfishness and ignorance. It seems that the people who are succeeding and going for education are increasingly the minority because they aren't the ones reproducing. It's the playboys and the desperate insecure girls. It's the LOVE-starved generation that is being spoon-fed pornography and sex for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Music, TV, movies and magazines promoting the "fun" of partying, getting high/drunk, casual sex, etc. The idols of this world are no longer the intellectual geniuses with their innovations (Einstein) or the moral epicenters (Ghandi, Mother Teresa) that changed the world. We give little care for those who pushed society to new awareness, new heights. No not anymore.
Now, we idolize the sensual and the sexual. We idolize the hot body. We idolize the most temporary and empty part of our humanity...the form. We celebrate immodesty and immorality. We tell ourselves that we are "taking control" when we are actually losing control. And we don't associate that to our pain, our failure, our lack of progress and improvement in life. We don't associate it to failed relationships, cheating, lying and lack of integrity in general. We now have a society that denies consequence and responsibility. Denies consideration. Denies legacy. We are no longer a world of creation and innovation. We are a world of destruction. And so that is why I say, I want to be a hermit. I want to close out a world that is so determined to be blind to truth and beauty...a world that will cast pearls before swine, selling what is truly valuable for a cheap thrill or a one night stand.
We can't keep a foot in both doors and then be surprised when you don't have a leg to stand on. I want to mourn for the 'wholesome' and the 'down to earth'. I want to mourn for the innocence of youth. I want to scream at the people who don't stand up for anyone or anything and then blame everyone for their poor choices. But when I talk like this...people say I'm judgemental and intolerant. People would probably even call me a hater. I'm not tring to hate...I'm trying to love. But it's getting harder in a world that no longer understands that word...what once was love is now acceptance. People don't want to strive to be better, rise to the challenge, and fulfill their potential...they want to be accepted as is. No pressure. No pain. No progress. And they call that "happiness"...so where are all the happy people?
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